INTERRUPT

INTERRUPT is the moment in which you try something other than the usual next move. It may be a pause, a clarifying question, a request for time or a decision to return to a discussion when you can participate constructively.

The purpose is not to suppress every emotion. It is to notice that an immediate feeling does not have to dictate your next sentence or action. The amount of choice available will vary with the person and situation.

• Recognising a familiar reaction as it begins.
• Choosing a short, usable pause or phrase.
• Asking for clarification before assuming a motive.
• Interrupting your own conduct without controlling someone else.

You hear criticism and prepare to interrupt. Instead, you say, “I want to understand the concern. Which part would you like me to explain?” If you need time, you might say, “May I think about this and come back to you this afternoon?”

Choose a situation that is safe enough to practise in. Finish this sentence: “When I notice myself about to ___, I will try ___.” Keep the alternative small and observable. If you request a pause, agree when to return where that is useful.

• What is my earliest sign that I am about to react?
• What could I do instead for the next few seconds?
• Would a pause help, or do I need support or a firmer boundary?

Pausing is not an obligation to stay in an unsafe conversation. Where there is intimidation or danger, protecting yourself takes priority. REPAIR explores what can responsibly be addressed after a difficult moment.